Failing Forward - Seeing Failure as a Positive Experience in Your Life!

When I get in the car, I like it one of two ways: totally quiet or I like to listen to personal development. I know, to some of you that may seem strange.  I honestly don't like the "noise" of having music blaring on a regular basis.  Sometimes my kids will turn it on but most of the time, I just want it quiet.  If I am by myself, then I am definitely listening to some personal development!

Well, that's what I did today on my drive to some appointments.  Beachbody offers amazing training calls every week led by top coaches in the organization.  Every Monday morning, I'm listening to the call by one of Beachbody's top coaches and learning how I can better myself, my challengers and my coaches and team!  They've got these all recorded and on a Podcast so I often will go back and listen to these calls in the car!

Today the call I listened to was called "Turning Failure into Success"!!  WOW...did I need to listen to that one today!

So, I'm going to get very real with you here, I hope you realize that I am just as human as you are and I have very real fears, struggles and setbacks all the same!  I get down on myself and don't always fill my head with the positive affirmations I know I should.  Just like anyone else, I get off track with my nutrition and fitness and KNOW what I should be doing, but don't do it!  So, in short...I'm human!!

It's hard to even put things in words, because being vulnerable is just not always natural and easy...

One of the major reasons I became a Beachbody coach back 20 months ago was so that I could help hold myself accountable to my health and fitness goals!  I have struggled at many times in my adult years with the yo-yoing of diets (as I'm sure so many women can relate to) and I really just wanted to end that once and for all!  Let's face it.  I know how to do it all.  I know how to eat healthy, I know how to exercise and workout, I know how to encourage others and help them reach the success they are working for.  But, over the last month, I was just not in a good state of mind with myself in order to do that for ME.  I had been a little lax with my nutrition for a couple months and then got to the point last month where the "I don't care" saying came into my head (which truly I do care...but my actions weren't showing).  This went for my nutrition as well as my business.

Things I struggled with:

• Nutrition- even though a lot of what I was eating was healthy, I had too big of portions and I would add things in like tortilla chips and cheese and snacky bars that are not in line with the 21 Day Fix.
• Positive Self Talk - I found myself saying "I can't" WAY too much.
• Emotional highs and lows - hey...I'm a woman and we can be known for emotional highs and lows, but most of the time I can hold myself pretty even keeled.  This month I found myself more in the emotional lows.
• Support -  I failed some of my challengers and coaches because I was not as involved as I usually am and like to be to help them succeed!
• Business - I lacked the discipline to daily do the things I need in order to keep my business moving the direction I desire to reach my goals!
• Personal Development - I stopped listening to the podcasts and audiobooks, I stopped reading things that would set my mind in a positive direction.

Do you know how negative things can work in your head?  They keep grating at you an a negative thought repeated over and over becomes ingrained in your brain.  I don't know about you, but I don't want negativity to be ingrained in my brain!

Well, this is a new month...a fresh start to clean the slate from the past!  I got on the phone with one of my mentor's, Melanie Mitro, who I feel so blessed that she's a part of my life and she was able to help me change the course of my actions over the last month and get my mind filled with a goal and positive mindset to move forward into April!

So...how do you get out of that RUT of negativity??

Here's what I did:

1. Be honest with yourself
2. Share with someone you trust
3. Own up to your shortcomings
4. Take Action and make a plan!

So let's break that down and I'll tell you what I did to get out of my rut and back on track.   First, so much of my mental negativity stemmed from my poor nutrition.  It really effects me (and maybe you) so much more that we all realize it!  Yes, my pants were fitting tighter and I didn't like that and I knew I wasn't practicing what I preached 100% (or even 80%).

In order to kind of get a handle back on my nutrition and gain control that way, I decided to do the 3 Day Refresh...and stick to it 100%.  I followed it to a T and didn't cheat.  (Ok...well, honesty here.  The only thing I did not do was stop my morning coffee, I had been struggling real bad with headaches and going off the coffee I was not going to add anymore headaches to my day!  But I cut the coconut oil down to 1/4 tsp in my coffee.)  

This 3 Day Refresh really got my mindset refocused and reminded me I CAN follow my plan without feeling the need to pick at everything.  I did that successfully for 3 days and had great results.  I lost 3 lbs and 4 inches and gained control and a mindset to refocus again on my nutrition.

From there I was able to go straight into the 21 Day Fix Extreme Countdown to Competition meal plan and stick to that.  Feeling great and confident and successful for following my plan!

I've set goals for my business, my fitness/nutrition, my coaches and challengers and most importantly I have a mindset that I AM A WINNER!!!  That no matter what I set my mind to, I can achieve!!

So...there it is...it's all out there!  I'm human, I struggle with things just like you do.  And yes, as a coach, I'm not perfect.  I do fall off the wagon sometimes with my goals, but it's important to get back up and moving in the right direction.

If you have connected in any way with my story, I would love to help you see the other side of your struggles!  Just know that I'm not perfect...nor will I ever be!  But, I do have a passion to help others, just like you and me!!

I'm SO excited to help you succeed in your health and fitness...OR, if you are looking for some extra income or love to help others too, I have some really exciting new coach trainings coming up later this month and I would love to talk to you about what it means to be a Beachbody coach (Email me for more information)!!  Or if you would like more info about a health/fitness accountability group please fill out the application below!

Don't wait to change your life...do a 180 degree turn NOW and take control of your goals!  Remember, your failures are only a BRUISE, not a permanent SCAR!!